I’m really excited to be talking with you today about a fantastic e-course I’ve just had the chance to review and an opportunity for one of you to experience it too! (Details on how to enter are at the end of the post.)
Tantrums are for all ages
With an 8 year old and a heading-quickly-into-puberty 12 year old, our house certainly gets its fair share of meltdowns (even my own occasional one to be honest!). After dealing with a tantrum, I find there’s often a lingering thought. “Could I have handled that better?”
Effective discipline means that we’re not only stopping a bad behavior or promoting a good one, but also teaching skills and nurturing the connections in our children’s brains that will help them make better decisions and handle themselves well in the future.Daniel J. Siegel, No-Drama Discipline: The Whole-Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind
That’s why I was so keen to say yes when Eloise Grobbelaar from Growth and Grit asked if I wanted to try out her new e-course, Managing the Mayhem of Meltdowns, before she released it publicly.
Recently, I listed Eloise’s website Growth and Grit as one of my favourite parenting websites for 2019 and after taking her e-course (which will be released at the end of January) I am even more keen for you to know about this fantastic site!
Eloise bases all of her resources (most of which are free!) on well researched psychology and neuroscience and her new course is the same. I just love the practical, positive way she guides you through brain development, why kids throw tantrums and how to deal with them.
Strategies for calming a meltdown
I talked about one strategy a few weeks ago, tuning in to your child’s feelings, that has been shown to be very effective in calming children down quickly. I was excited to see that as well as explaining why tuning into their feelings works, Eloise unpacks three additional strategies for us to try out. All of them are positive, proactive and solidly based in research on the developing brain.
Eloise starts the one and a half hour course with an introduction to proactive parenting and brain development and, even though I have a background in psychology and child development, I found I learnt more than I expected to. She provides ways to teach your children about their own brains, which I loved (even a nice print-out). And shows how we can equip them with the social and emotional skills our children need to manage their own emotions better as they develop into strong, healthy individuals (that means less tantrums for us to deal with too!)
Emotional Intelligence leads to success
We all want our children to ultimately manage themselves and their own emotions. Being able to manage and understand emotions well has a big impact on how successful, healthy, and happy you are, how well you do academically, and how well you relate to others according to researchers such as psychologist Daniel Goleman.
People with well-developed emotional skills are also more likely to be content and effective in their lives, mastering the habits of mind that foster their own productivity;Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence
Eloise points out that mid-tantrum is not the time to teach your children, but after a meltdown we have a fantastic opportunity to teach strategies, offer choices and establish boundaries that help our kids learn to manage themselves and their emotions better next time.
So if your keen to enter the draw to win a free Managing the Mayhem of Meltdowns e-course just subscribe to my email list (The subscribe is at the top of this page. I promise not to spam you!) and flick me an email to introduce yourself and how you think the e-course would be helpful to you.
My own free resource for parents going through a breakup: Kids ask hard questions, is also almost here. So subscribe and keep updated as to when that’s available too!
Until next time,